When should you write an email and when should you schedule a meeting

Writing isn’t good for everything. I’m a writer. I know.


We have so many different forms of communication now: not just email, phone, text, and in person. Those may be the 4 basic ones, but that doesn’t include all the other chat messages on every app everywhere. I communicate with my friends in my writers group through text, email, and the Meetup chat, as well as several google docs that I recently set up that allow for commenting. 


I work with clients through email, phone, text, and LinkedIn messages, as well as my online course platform which has its own email, chat, discussion threads and other functions. 


Even my friends communicate with me through phone, email, text messages, and voice messages on regular text and Whatsapp, so there’s a million different methods for them to get in touch with me. Oh, and I forget Instagram both forwarding things and messaging (and Facebook, etc). 


Once upon a time, your choices were to send a letter or talk to them in person. Sometimes I long for those times when communication was simpler because it was so hard. 


Now it’s too easy. 

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How to introduce yourself (it's different in writing than when face-to-face)

Why do we state our name right away? Most people don’t remember it. Their brains don’t know whether your name is important until they know whether they like you or care about what you have to say. 


But we state our name because the person we are talking to needs to know what to call us–the body standing in front of them. Our names are how we humans distinguish one body from another body. It’s a weird concept. 


Even though the standard is to say our name first when introducing ourselves in person, most people don’t remember it. They’ll remember something we said or talked about. They might go, “Oh, I met this really cool person who had the same opinion as me on returning shopping carts at the grocery store!” And the next time they see you, they’ll get your name and remember it because–shopping carts!


Your name is a label for your body. And since the body is present in in-person intros, we want the name.


Introductions in writing are different. 

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Concise = the balance between short and effective

First, and I say this with all the wry humor you can imagine, no one wants to read your writing at work. People, for the most part, want to do their jobs. And doing their jobs involves reading your messages. But the reading people do at work is not the same reading people do when they pick up a good book or dig into the most recent blog post by someone they follow. Your colleagues aren’t *choosing* to read your writing. They have to read it to do their jobs.

Because of this attitude, our writing at work needs to be short. We need to get the point across quickly so that people can stop reading and do the things they actually get paid for.

But, and this brings me to my second point, short writing feels mean. Studies have been done on why writing feels different from things that are said out loud, and it boils down to a combination of these facts: 

1) writing doesn’t have a body.

2) writing has a lengthy (millenia) history of being associated with rich and therefore educated people.

3) writing tends to be and needs to be more correct than spoken language.

4) writing is considered more “official”--has more power in court–than things said out loud.

When you combine these facts together–no body, a history of elitism, the necessity of correctness, and the value of writing in the legal system–you come up with what researchers have called the negativity effect.

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